Experiencing Technical Difficulties (resonant) wrote,
Experiencing Technical Difficulties

Am I overthinking things?

Sandy and I have been dating for three or four months. We hug each other goodbye at the end of the dates, but we haven't kissed or anything else. I'd like to kiss him, but haven't wanted to seem aggressive.

Sandy is very kind, considerate, and friendly. He is calm, in control of himself, and thoughtful. I like him, and want to have a relationship with him that is more than being friends. However, on our first date, he told me how other people he'd dated had just wanted to jump right into sex, and treated him more as a piece of meat to devour than a person with feelings. I don't want to be like those people, and want to be properly respectful to him. There's also the bit that in hetero relationships, it's traditionally the male that is supposed to initiate making relationships physical. Although we're both guys, he happens to be a trans guy, and I don't want there to be any implication that he's not equally a male in the relationship. I know, that's silly. But most of all, I'm mostly worried that he might not be interested in doing anything more than hugging, and that if I try to make this anything more, I'll lose him as a friend. Although I really, really want to be more than just friends.

So, how should I approach this, and what would be a good setting to do so?
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